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Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Read and discuss

This article by Emily Matchar is somewhat lengthy, but it's worth clicking to and reading.

She is a feminist, atheist writer who apparently loves Mormon Mommy Blogs. What are your thoughts on Mommy bloggers? Why do you love/hate them? Are you one?

Although I am now technically among their ranks, many of them piss me off so much I want to reach through the computer and shake them. Other times I want to slow down and remember to appreciate a moment that one of them has beautifully captured in writing.

Emily does a fantastic job explaining why, to her, Mommy Blogs are so appealing (specifically the Mormon Mommy variety). Now it's your time to share!


  1. the article was actually pretty fascinating to read. i agree with just about everything she says. also, some blogs come off a little too fake to me (a la rockstar diaries) and they annoy me to the point where i can't read them anymore. i think this goes for anyone though, mormon or not... if you are annoying or only act like your life is solely perfect, then it will get old.

  2. My favorite thing about this article was the comments. I did not waste time to read all of them, but I especially appreciated that indicated that the entire bloggernacle community (of which I suppose we are both a part) was an elaborate marketing scheme by the LDS church, complete with photo ops. Wow.

    More seriously, though, I enjoyed the article. There are certainly some blogs that I enjoy more than others, and some that feel more 'authentic' than others. I suppose that if the point of writing is to reach a certain audience with a certain message, then un-authentic blogs are no less valid, they are just more like fiction. If the author of the piece feels that, over all, Mormon mommy bloggers can paint motherhood in all its complexities as a place that can be full of joy where others have described a see of negativity, then that makes my day.

  3. Wow, check out all my typos. Most glaringly, a SEA of negativity. Not sure what happened there, or the missing word above. Apologies.

  4. I was going to post this on my blog too. I do think there are a lot of LDS women (or women in general) who try to put on a facade. I appreciate the blogging moms that can express their frustrations or struggles in life and also share the joys of being a mom.

  5. Kris, I read about two comments before I died of boredom. They're a little outrageous.

    I think there are blogs, like Kris said, that have become fictional because of their popularity- like Rockstar Diaries. Naomi probably doesn't want to share all of her real life with thousands of strangers, so her blog has become more of an income generator than the journal it used to be.

    And to keep readers coming back, lots of mommy bloggers do use fluff and fancy to make it a fun place to be.

    I appreciate some realism though!

  6. Oh, the "cute lumberjack shirts" part made me laugh because I know a guy whose fiancee has started dressing him in those.

    I loved the article. I thought she was 95 percent spot on in her analysis. Most of the bloggers she mentioned have expressed at least some pleasure with the article, as well. (Although at least one pulled the "she got it wrong like the media always does" crap without saying WHAT was wrong. I hate that.)

    The elaborate marketing scheme by the church is laughable — until you realize some bloggers actually DO see themselves as fulfilling some sort of missionary calling via their blog. Those are probably the ones I want to reach through my computer and shake. :)

  7. Read this article too from someone else posting it on facebook. I thought it was very interesting and brought up some wonderful points. In fact, I read it to Russ after dinner one night to get his input on it as well.
    Not that Mormons are the only ones out there with typically "uplifting" blogs by any means it sure is nice that people do notice that. I think it's fantastic that reading some mormon mommy blogs has made her and her friends realize that having a husband and kids is not some horrible downer sometimes society makes it out to be. Sure life is tough and I always find reading those kind of blog enteries more entertaining than the fluff and stuff since I'm typically going through the same thing at that time or have recently gone through it.
    Anyway, I found the article very interesting and thought about posting it to my blog as well lol.

  8. The phenomenon of LDS-blogging is almost overwhelming. Here are my thoughts:

    1) The reason LDS blogs differ from the super trendy, think "green" and "left" Mommy-blogs (also very numerous) is because yes, they are in general a lot more positive and in the author's words, uplifting. I think that is because in the LDS church, staying at home raising children is sort of viewed as the cream of the crop, the highest honor, what a woman should be encouraged to do. If you believe that and you are doing it--of course you would be uplifted! And proud of yourself!

    2) As for the actuality of the "happiness" of these blogs, what the author of the article said is true: blogs are made to "prettify" our lives. I have blogged since 2004. That's 7 years ago, and what do I blog about? The boring parts of my life? Heck no, the awesome and trendy parts, right? I do think some of these blogs are too over the top, but I think that can be applied to all the non-LDS blogs as well. All blogs in general can be seen as not 100% realistic. With that being said.....

    3) (Please no one hate me. Because I love you all.) I do think there is pressure in the LDS church, specifically, to put on a happy face and if you don't, you must be doing something wrong, especially among women.

  9. Oh and by the way--my opinion on staying home and raising children as being the cream of the crop and highest honor? I completely agree. I stated it as an observation above, but I just thought I'd share my personal opinion. :)

  10. Meliss, I agree that there is a lot of pressure on women in the LDS church to be "perfect." And if you can't have 10 kids, sew all their clothes and make dinner every night from scratch, then you're a failure.

    I'm glad to know women like you, who have strong faith, education, a career, and still look dang cute in an apron, making meatballs from scratch.


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