When I started thinking about this series, I thought about other women I know and how they, too, can inspire. I certainly can't give advice that will work for everyone, so I asked different mamas to contribute. Some are working mothers, some mostly stay home. Some have a newborn for the first time, others are doing it a third. Today's guest blogger is Amanda, with whom I attended High School in Freeport, Maine. We were cheerleaders together and I seem to remember some strange art projects we may have done in class together... but we don't have to go there.
I have never written a blog, or posted any journal type writings online, but I admire those who do, and I have always thoroughly enjoyed reading Liv’s posts, because they are amazing, insightful, and relateable! So here’s my crack at Liv’s Mama Style Series.
You want to know: “What makes you feel fabulous as a mama?” Had you asked me this question 4 months ago, I would be able to give you a one word answer: “Nothing.” However, I have made some life changes that have truly turned me around and I have this new found fabulousness!
Here’s a little back story:
I have been on a roller coaster weight ride for about 5 years now, starting with my first pregnancy. I started at 150Lbs, and 5 years, 2 pregnancies later (1 with twins) I weighed in at 192. I had bounced back and forth from losing all my baby weight, and then some, to gaining it all back. Depression set in, and I had a negative outlook on the world in general!
My husband was always supportive of me, and helped me in my adventure to weight loss freedom, but it wasn't until a friend approached me with a Transformation Challenge at a local gym that things started to sink in. Wow, did she come to me because clearly I was a girl that needed to shed some serious pounds? That's what it felt like at first because I had this total “me against the world” attitude! That was an all-time low for me, and what turned my life around.
Looking, Feeling, Being Fabulous:
I started a program called Mend-A-Body in September. It isn’t just about losing weight, but having a healthy lifestyle, and maintaining that healthy living! It has taught me so much about diet in general, and how to easily change your life without even feeling like you have put in so much work to do so. I am not spending hours at the gym, or spending hundreds of dollars on meal plans. I have simply learned to make minor adjustments in day to day meals. Being healthy is so so so important for a parent! Having a healthy parent also means having a healthy baby! My children eat what I eat, and if I’m making better choices, so are they!
I currently have lost 25 pounds, and what a difference does it make, not only to my body but my personality and attitude on life! I am not saying that being a skinny person makes you a happy or fabulous person! The issue was how I felt about myself. If you feel crappy about yourself, then you will have a crappy attitude, you will have a crappy life.
My attitude and personality has changed for the better. I honestly can say I have started to feel like the person I was in high school; outgoing, fun, loving, bubbly, and full of smiles! I went from the girl in sweatshirts and “comfy” clothes to the girl wearing more form fitting clothes. I went from the girl not owning a single bottle of nail polish to now owning 6 bottles, and wanting more!
My suggestions to looking, feeling, and being Fabulous (because you know you are):
Just say “No” – Just once, those really yummy cookies your co-worker offered you, go ahead and say “No.” Trust me in 3 hours you will be so proud of yourself you will feel fabulous (and 1 pound lighter). Remember this feeling the next time you are offered too!
2. Make ONE substitution – For example try ground turkey instead of ground beef in your tacos. Try making mashed cauliflower instead of mashed potatoes (it is really yummy). Or if you hit up the local bagel shop (like I did) at least once a week, try skipping that just once each week (it not only will save on your wallet, but your waistline!).
3. Ditch the clothes you hide behind – For me this was all my maternity clothes. I just up and got rid of every single one of them! If you don’t have them, you can’t wear them!
4. Take 5 – Even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom while the little ones are pounding on the door, do it! Just take 5 minutes to yourself, and paint your nails, brush your hair, slap on some eye shadow. Those 5 minutes of me time will refresh you and make you feel fabulous!
So ask me again: “What makes you feel fabulous as a mama?” I feel fabulous knowing I am making huge strides in becoming a HEALTHIER family!
Amanda, thanks again for participating in this series. It is so important to remember that how we feel about ourselves should stem from how we treat ourselves. And I agree, a healthy parent is the foundation of a healthy family. Three cheers for getting rid of the things we hide behind, and letting our fabulous selves shine!