Aspen has a favorite little girlfriend in her current class and I've made an effort to get in touch with the mom and have a couple of play dates before the school year is through. We sent a note to school with Aspen to give to her friend so her mom would have my name and number.
In the two visits we've had with one another and our kids, she's asked me what I like to do in my spare time when I'm not "mothering." I only have two answers for her: reading and yoga.
She asked what else. What do I do when I'm not cleaning or carpooling or cooking or sleeping? Well, that's pretty much it. And I'm owning it.
She has two children, but the one Aspen's age is her youngest. So they're a little less dependent on her than if they were younger. To be honest, I feel like my kids take advantage of how much I'm willing to do for them just to stop the whining. I know I could be better about encouraging their independence, but they usually react with complete meltdowns that make my ears feel as though they're bleeding.
So, I'm not apologetic that when I'm not working one of my two jobs, or cleaning, or sleeping, or eating, I just like to read or do yoga. OR BINGE-WATCH NETFLIX SO SUE ME.
I don't need to do a whole lot more right now to feel fulfilled. Like I've recently said, my self-care is evolving and I'm actively working on including more time with my own friends, and monthly date nights with Kevin.
I don't want to be doing much else right now, because I hate feeling stressed about my to-do list, and I hate feeling overtired. There will be a chapter for me to do more, but I still have some pages to go before I get there.
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